• Do you feel nervous or fearful in your relationship?
• Are you afraid of your partner's temper?
• Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid his/her anger? Do you feel like you are always “walking on eggshells”?
• Are you afraid to say “No” to sex?
• Do you feel powerless in your relationship?
• Are you scared of disagreeing with him/her?
• Are you afraid to break up with your partner?
• Does s/he criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
• Does s/he check up on you or question you about what you do without him/her?
• Does s/he act controlling?
• Does s/he repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing other guys/women?
• Does s/he tell you that if you changed s/he wouldn't abuse you?
• Does s/he act jealous of the time you spend with other people?
• Does s/he make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
• Does s/he call you names?
• Does s/he ignore your feelings?
• Has s/he ridiculed your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, class or sexual preference?
• Has s/he ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
• Does s/he tell you what to wear, or how to do your hair?
• Does s/he prevent you from going out or doing things you want to do?
• Do you feel that, with him/her, nothing you do is ever good enough?
• Does s/he say that s/he will kill or hurt herself/himself if you break up with him/her?
• Does s/he make excuses for his/her abusive behavior by saying it's because of alcohol or drugs or because s/he can't control his/her temper, or that s/he was 'just joking'?
• Does s/he hate spending time with your family and keep you from seeing your friends and family?
• Does s/he withhold approval, appreciation or affection as punishment?
• Has s/he manipulated you with lies?
• Has s/he taken your car keys or money away?
• Has s/he subjected you to reckless driving?
